The Harsh Reality about Self Harm
Self harm is not beautiful. Any person that thinks self harm, or mental illness in general, can be romanticised is deeply misinformed. You cannot find beauty in someone’s desire to hurt themselves.
Self harm is often associated with emotionally unstable teenagers or girls searching for attention, but this is entirely untrue. Self harm is a coping mechanism, and it can be to cope with any number of issues, whether it be as serious as depression, or as common as low self-esteem. And self harm is not just cutting one’s wrist. Self harm is burning, cutting, taking pills, pinching, scratching, punching, starving, and the list goes on.
There are many ways in which self harm can be used to cope with an issue, but it varies with each person’s experience. For me, I found comfort in being in pain and seeing my own blood because it drew away from the fact that I was being bullied and I hated my life. It even developed to a stage of feeling complete emptiness and hurting myself was just a way to feel something.
Girls are not the only ones to self harm. Boys are more likely to act in aggressive ways such as punching a wall but this is still classed as a way to harm oneself. There is no specific type of person that will resort to it. And not all self harmers are mentally ill, because it is not a mental disorder – it is an emotional difficulty.
The most infuriating myth about self harm is that people do it for attention. I find it impossible to believe that someone would hurt themselves purely for attention. The truth is that self harm is often a cry for help and a way for people to express their feelings without having to discuss it. People should not be judgemental towards self harmers, but they should be supportive and loving, because no one should be made to feel like they are crazy.
Society is massively ignorant when it comes to self harm, but the only piece of advice I can give is that people need to understand that self harm is not weird and doesn’t mean someone is ‘mental’. If someone self harms you need to help them realise that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel and let them know that one day they will find an alternative coping strategy. And we should not be pressured to cover our scars, because they are merely battle marks, that prove we have had to battle problems, but we have won.